Recently, I started a 30 day self-care journey on IG. My initial thought was to get others involved and make a movement for self-care. Of course, no one joined me but that didn’t stop me from my vision of showing up for myself. How often do we realize that we are so concerned for the welfare of others but not for ourselves? Maybe you haven’t noticed because you don’t give yourself the time of day.
See I want to change that – not just for others but for myself. If you’ve read my other posts, you’ve seen me discuss my season of transition and isolation. Part of that is because I just need time for myself. I’ve always been what everyone else needed : social worker, therapist, life coach, big sister, shero etc. Truth is I haven’t even showed up this much for myself. I take the blame for that because I had expectations. I thought that if I held my heart out in my hands that others would see and give the same in return.
Not that I did those things for recognition but I forgot that others don’t have the same heart as I do. When you are used to wearing many hats it’s hard to pull away. It was necessary because I haven’t been front and center at attention in my own life. Why do we feel so guilty for taking care of ourselves? Some think it’s selfish and that it’s always a negative thing. What would it take to show up for yourself?
Don’t let the misuse of others push you to do that when you can began today to make it a habit. See that’s what happened to me. I allowed people to take what they needed without demanding a return on my investment. Please learn from my mistake. Value and honor yourself because you are worth so much. If you want to start a journey to self-care and don’t know how, think of ways you can show up for yourself each day.