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What I Learned By Asking for Help

Whew! So it’s been a while since I’ve blogged, but all that means is that I have tons to write about. Sometimes taking a break helps you to regroup and get clarity on your content. I think we all deserve a break from things even if it’s what we enjoy. Too much of anything isn’t good, right?

Perfect segway into what I wanted to share with you all today. The last two months have been crazy! As usual, I was running around with my cape on being superwoman and one day I just couldn’t keep up with myself. I felt like I didn’t have a handle on any part of my life. For someone that’s type A and organized to the core, this triggered my anxiety and developed a beast! I felt ashamed because I was losing track of all things I once had under control.

One day, oh just one sweet day, I lost it. I gave up the fight. I stopped fighting with myself to have it all together and I called for back up. The thing about being super woman is that you do everything for yourself and others, and it’s hard to see who care and support you because YOU’RE literally in the way. I was just that, and I couldn’t live there long. I finally did it, I stepped down and asked for help.

I was not sure how to go about it because it was all too foreign, but I knew I just couldn’t go on any longer. It started with grad school, I asked for extensions in which the professor was 100% on-board with. I took time off for work, in which my supervisor seen in my eyes it was badly needed. I took a break from blogging because if you are a consistent reader, you know I am transparent and expose a lot. I needed to bring it all in for a second. I literally shut down.

What I learned was that I can still be strong and superwoman slaying and saving lives, but there’s nothing wrong with needing to slow down or asking for help. Why do we shame ourselves or others for needing just that, help? Why are we so afraid or prideful to ask for help? These are some of the questions I took about a month to explore because I was curious as to why I felt too good to ask for it. I hope by reading this you ask yourself the same in return.

As always,

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14 thoughts on “What I Learned By Asking for Help”

  1. Great post! Acknowledging you need to slow down and ask for help can be such a hard lesson to learn. I think we have an idea of what it means to be independent and asking for help is evidence we can’t handle it. That’s clearly not correct and is unsustainable. I’m glad you were able to find a sense of balance again, a break can go a long way.


  2. Great read! I have always had a problem with calling for back up asking for that extra help. I guess I didn’t want to be a bother or maybe it was pride. Im now learning that everyone needs someone! I loved this 💜

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  3. Absolutely agree! I LOVE writing but sometimes you do have to take a break even from the things you love! I realized that slowing down & taking your time and the Perfect duo. I really get to regroup etc.

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  4. “ … I called for back up “ . I love this ! We often forget that the same energy we put into others we need to pour into ourselves . It’s inportant to recognize when we have to take a step back for our sanity sake. Great post!

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  5. I don’t have any family close by but I do have friends willing to help. I still don’t ask for help when I need it but if a friend offers, I don’t say no. That is a start.

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  6. It is very hard to ask for help, but sometimes you are in a situation where that is really all you can do! And it feels so much better when you receive it but its a total learning experience!

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  7. I had to learn the same lesson. When you wrote, “Why do we shame ourselves or others for needing just that, help? Why are we so afraid or prideful to ask for help,” I could relate. I believe it’ts not pride it’s just that we get caught up in people pleasing.

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