I was just like you, waiting to be accepted and invited to have a seat at the table. If I didn’t decide to create my own space, I’d probably still be standing and waiting around for folks. I had heard over time that a lot of things that you want to do, you may have to create on your own. Of course, I didn’t want to hear that! I wanted to just be a part of something that was already put together. After hearing it enough that it got uber annoying, I started to do just that, create my own space.
What that looks like now? I started blogging, began to develop a blueprint for my online business, applied to be a representative for BGSW (I got it too!), and now I want to create Facebook groups for interests that I have; you know, to connect with people just like me. It’s hard when you are different and set apart – basically being a leader is a lonely journey. It all makes sense why I was never supposed to fill the spaces others created because it wasn’t the space that was meant for me. Now don’t get me wrong, I am apart of some spaces that others created, but what I am saying is I had to step out and go after those spaces that I desired deeply on the inside.
We long for things in life and we tend to always look outward to get them. I don’t know why we are so accustomed to that, but what I do know is that is the first step of neglecting ourselves. We don’t spend time looking inward enough. When I began to do that, a rush of ideas, dreams, love, and support came from that place. Seeking the insides of ourselves is important and I am glad that I did so. I am no longer waiting for others to create spaces or invite me into theirs. I’m making it myself with the intention to support others like me in doing the same.
Will you create your own space?
As always,
Leave Inspired.
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Needed this! Currently dealing with all of this, and you’re right it’s lonely. However, I think there’s something to be said for ultimately blazing a trail for the benefit of yourself and others.
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Girl, it has been really rough! I am taking it one day at a time, but I have soaked enough in misery over it and now I am aggressively going after those spaces. Thanks for reading and responding, I appreciate it 🙂
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Blogging really helped me have my own space. And I also spend a lot of time curating my kitchen, which is swiftly becoming my fav room in the house.
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Moriah, the kitchen is always the best place for me too ! Thank you for reading and engaging with me 🙂
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Of course, and I love it! I’m actually doing a challenge where I dedicate one month to a different thing in the kitchen. I’m super excited about it. https://ourtable4two.com/2018/12/24/one-month-one-change-kitchen-edition/
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Wow!! This looks great! I love how you have it all set up too!
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Thanks! I’m really excited about it.
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I needed to read this, especially with the transition that I’m in currently in my life. I’ve ever felt that if I wasn’t able to “sit” at the table with others, then I wasn’t accepted, and the thought of rejection is one of the worst feelings we can experience. 2019 is a time for me to create everything and stop living in fear! Also congratulations on your job!
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Yes girl!!! We gotta start creating our own spaces and having our own tables. When I tell you I just wanted to slide into something that was already made it just wasn’t working out. I needed to be a creator.
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I actually never thought of having my own space. I have to say my own space would be in my bedroom just because it’s comfy and happy place.
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This is absolutely beautiful
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Great read. Its not about fitting in but being set apart and creating your own lane.
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What’s BGSW? I definitely understand how you feel I’ve also began pondering creating my own groups & path instead of following one that’s already paved!
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Hey ! BGSW stands for Black Girls in Social Work 🤗
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Oh cool I’m a Social Worker as well!
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Really ??? You should join the group, it’s ok Facebook!
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this is the very reason why I created my own personal blog and other creative ventures. I was tired of waiting on others to give me permission to create and demonstrate my skills. Sometimes you have to be your own advocate and create your own lane. Many of the successful people do and so can we.
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Yes girl I feel you!! What other ventures do have going on ? 🤗
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This is so inspiring! I’m trying to create my own space. It’s definitely hard but I’m sure it will be rewarding once I make it through!
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Just do sis! I worried but I just did it scared. What does creating your own space look like? What would you like to do? I’m all ears 🤗
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This post basically sums up my 2018. I stepped out on faith and started my blog. I tried so hard to remain at the table in other circles because it felt comfortable. However, it didn’t work long term and became very uncomfortable. Once I created my own table, I was able to flourish the way I knew I should have all long.
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Yassss I love hearing this !!! I like your style too! I am a new blogger and still learning but I had to create my own space and I’m loving it!
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Loved this !! This is exactly why I created my own blog and brand. Great read.
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What host site do you use? Also, is your blog monetized?
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This sounds as if I could of wrote it myself! It def gets lonely at the top sometimes but that is the price we pay to be trendsetters.. the ones who actually get ish done! Creating my own space was the best thing I could of did for myself. Good read!
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Blogging has allowed me to create my own space and connect with other WOC and millennials in ways that I find so helpful!
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Loved it! This is sooooo important in creating your OWN vision. You can very well contribute your skills to help others but that’s exactly what you’ll be doing. Helping someone else build their vision. You have that creative spark in you so I’m glad you found it and ran with it.
For me this is the main reason why I created therawdosage.com
I wanted my own platform and start to create my own vision. I see it taking off 🚀
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