I was just like you, waiting to be accepted and invited to have a seat at the table. If I didn’t decide to create my own space, I’d probably still be standing and waiting around for folks. I had heard over time that a lot of things that you want to do, you may have to create on your own. Of course, I didn’t want to hear that! I wanted to just be a part of something that was already put together. After hearing it enough that it got uber annoying, I started to do just that, create my own space.
What that looks like now? I started blogging, began to develop a blueprint for my online business, applied to be a representative for BGSW (I got it too!), and now I want to create Facebook groups for interests that I have; you know, to connect with people just like me. It’s hard when you are different and set apart – basically being a leader is a lonely journey. It all makes sense why I was never supposed to fill the spaces others created because it wasn’t the space that was meant for me. Now don’t get me wrong, I am apart of some spaces that others created, but what I am saying is I had to step out and go after those spaces that I desired deeply on the inside.
We long for things in life and we tend to always look outward to get them. I don’t know why we are so accustomed to that, but what I do know is that is the first step of neglecting ourselves. We don’t spend time looking inward enough. When I began to do that, a rush of ideas, dreams, love, and support came from that place. Seeking the insides of ourselves is important and I am glad that I did so. I am no longer waiting for others to create spaces or invite me into theirs. I’m making it myself with the intention to support others like me in doing the same.
Will you create your own space?